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A Guide to
Freedom from Bondage by the Power of
the Holy Spirit
The latter part
of this article is designed to be a practical working
model to be used to identify lies from your past and present that are
keeping you in behavioral bondage today. The model is a guide designed
to lead you through a process of discovery and, ultimately, freedom
from bondage by the power of the Holy Spirit!
Resentments
Toward Parents
When a person is
experiencing recurrent tendencies toward ungodly
behavioral patterns in his life, it may indicate that there are
foundational root judgments that he has formed about himself, about
life, or about people in his past that need to be addressed. Hebrews
12:15 cautions us, “See to it that no one misses the grace of God and
that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” “Bitter
roots” from the past often grow up into weeds of ungodly behavior in
our lives today.
Sometimes, we are in bondage
to
repetitive sin patterns because of
judgments we have made toward our parents or guardians. Deuteronomy
5:16 says, “Honor your father and mother, as the Lord your God has
commanded you, so that you may live long and that it may go well with
you in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” It seems reasonable
to conclude then, that in the areas in which we have shown dishonor to
our parents, it may not go well with us!
In
many cases, if we have made judgments against our parents, we may be
especially susceptible to ungodly behavior in some of the very same
areas in which we have judged them. We may be reaping in ungodly
behavior today what we have sown in ungodly judgments toward our
parents in the past (Gal. 6:7, 8).
From Judgments to Beliefs
Judgments are
formed by the way we interpret events in our life. From
past interpretations, we subsequently formed foundational root
judgments about God, ourselves, other people, and the world we live in.
For our purposes, we will be referring to foundational root judgments
as judgments from the past that support personal beliefs that have a
spiritually negative impact on the way we think, feel and act today.
First
of all, these judgments are not always formed against somebody.
Very often, they are simply about somebody or something. In the
following example from my own life, you will be able to observe how, as
a small child, I interpreted an event and then quickly translated this
interpretation into foundational root judgments about myself and about
my parents. These judgments contributed to the development of an
ungodly stronghold of fruitless striving that persisted throughout much
of my life. This memory is from childhood and may not be accurate in
every detail, but the important thing is how I perceived the events,
how I reacted to my perceptions, and what judgments were formed as a
result.In grade school, I had no trouble understanding that reading,
writing and arithmetic were required course subjects. These were the
classes that I attended and I received instruction in these subjects. I
also received homework in these subjects, so I spent a considerable
amount of time thinking about and trying to understand the subject
matter for these classes. But, in those early years,
I did not understand why two other subjects were showing up on my
report card every semester. Two subjects that I was not even being
instructed in! I had not received any homework in these subjects nor
had I spent any time studying or trying to understand them. I didn’t
even know what they meant. Yet, I was being graded on them! It seemed
extremely unfair to me.
Since
the grades I had been receiving in these two subjects were
generally poor, my parents were often upset with me. They tried to
convince me that if I were to receive better grades in these two
subjects, I would get better grades in the others. They implored me to
behave myself and try harder! I couldn’t figure out how behaving
myself and trying harder could possibly improve my grades in two
subjects I had never even been tested in. I was entirely frustrated.
The two subjects were - Conduct and Effort!
At
some point, perhaps in exasperation, one of my parents looked at me
and said, “Don’t you know what the words conduct and effort
mean?” I still remember vividly the look of surprise on my parent’s
faces when I replied with a bewildered “No.” My parents overcame their
astonishment and proceeded to explain to me the meaning of these words.
It was, of course, a significant revelation for me to discover that my
teachers were grading me on how hard I tried and how well I behaved in
school!
But,
unfortunately, I interpreted this to mean that my parents were
also grading me on my conduct and effort. I noticed they would
demonstrate displeasure when I would receive low grades in these
subjects and exhibit happiness when I received higher grades. I
perceived this to be acceptance of me on the one hand and rejection of
me on the other. I interpreted their reactions to my grades to mean
that they loved me more when I tried hard and behaved well, and they
loved me less when my performance was not up to the expected standards.
This was the mistaken judgment I made about my parents. The judgment I
made about myself was that I was only as lovable to my parents as the
level of my “acceptable” performance would dictate.
Because
of the high degree of credibility, I, as a child, ascribed to
my parents and the influence of the competition-based society I was
growing up in, it was only a small step for me to universalize these
judgments into the basic belief that it was necessary for me to perform
well in order to be loved by anyone - including God.
My
perceptions, from this single situation, substantially contributed
to the formation of multiple root judgments about my parents, myself,
God, and life in general. From root judgments like these, came years of
fruitless striving and angry, frustrated rebellion, as I strove to earn
what I mistakenly felt I needed most -conditional love! (Luke 15:28-30)
God’s Unconditional Love Defines
Our Value
Before sin came
into the world, mankind was able to personally
experience God’s unconditional love on a daily basis. Certainly, God’s
perfect love enabled Adam and Eve to feel secure and maintain a
positive definition of self-value. Before the guilt of sin stained
their souls, Adam and Eve had no need to strive for acceptance through
personal performance. Their sense of personal value was plainly evident
in God’s love for them. Competition with one another for the affections
of God was not even a consideration for Adam and Eve. Sin’s guilt and
shame had not yet separated them from the profoundly intimate
realization of God’s never ending love for them. They could have no
problem with low self-esteem, feelings of low self-worth and the
multitude of personal insecurities mankind struggles relentlessly to
overcome today.
But,
after sin, separated from the intimate realization of God’s
unconditional love, mankind began for the first time to exhibit a
performance-based, conditional love and acceptance for one another.
And
now, as a result of sin, though it is God’s unconditional love we
all need most, we, instead, determinedly pursue the love and approval
of other people in our lives. It is, in fact, our perceived deficit of
man’s conditional love and acceptance toward us that initiates the
formation of many of our ungodly foundational root judgments.
The Yielding of Our Will to God
Much of the
sinful behavior that we act out today arises from root
judgments. This sinful behavior is often fueled by judgments we have
made in response to insecurities. Many of these insecurities arise from
past perceived rejection by significant people in our life (Gen.
37:3,4).
Root
judgments form the foundations of beliefs that we develop, usually
as children, as we try to make sense of the world around us. We are all
born into a sin-damaged world. Our souls were not originally designed
to exist in this distorted spiritual environment. God did not design
our souls to experience rejection and abandonment. Our souls were
designed to experience His perfect love and everlasting
provision. Making sense of the world around us, who we are in
relation to this world and in relation to God, is a difficult task for
a soul that was created to dwell in harmonious union with an infinite
God’s unconditional love.
As
children, we begin to form what we consider at the time to be
necessary judgments about life, ourselves, other people, and God, as we
struggle to survive the barrage of rejection, abandonment, betrayal,
and performance-based conditional acceptance from the people in our
life. We learn to survive the emotional bombardment of sin-damaged
relationships by making judgments that we hope will help to protect,
secure or build up our own sense of self-worth and personal safety. Add
to this the natural tendency (as a result of original sin) of our souls
to insist on being in charge of our own destinies (like Adam and Eve in
the garden) and we have a superb recipe for relationship disaster. As
we unwittingly participate in the construction of a self-protective
“building up” of our souls through the judgments we make, we form a
barrier from which we will eventually fear and resist the foreign
concept of healthy intimacy later in our lives.
Our
souls have become structured over the years by layers of
self-protective, self-centered lies that we have judged and accepted as
beneficial to our mission of obtaining and maintaining positive
self-esteem. This dysfunctional soul structure that we have constructed
on the foundation of self-centered, self-protective striving must be
deconstructed by the power of the Holy Spirit. Judgments that have
become the foundation of beliefs residing in our soul which encourage
and support the ungodly choices that we are making today must be
detected, unearthed, and removed in order for Christlike character to
be developed within us (1Cor. 11:28-31).
Sin
strongholds arising from root judgments will never be overcome in
our life by simply suppressing negative feelings and urges or avoiding
certain situations and circumstances. These measures may be necessary,
but they are only temporary, stopgap measures and do not deal with the
real source of the problem (Col. 2:20-23).
If
we truly desire freedom from our pervasive struggle with “For what I
do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do--this
I keep on doing” (Rom 7:19), we must be willing to allow the law of the
Spirit of life to set us free from the law of sin and death (Rom. 8:
2). The law of sin and death only has force by the power of the lies
working in our souls that are keeping us from the freedom of truth. The
law of the Spirit of life is effectually the power of truth, by grace
through faith in the finished work of Christ on the cross, working in
our souls to free us from the power of the lies. The law of the Spirit
of life is the Holy Spirit actualizing the finished work of Christ in
the individual Christian.
In
order to effectively yield our will to God, there must be both a
sincere desire to stop sinning and a complete trust in the power of the
Holy Spirit to expose and disable the ungodly judgments and beliefs
that have brought dysfunction to our soul (John 16:7-15; Rom. 8:13,14).
When we are no longer impeded by the effects of our ungodly
foundational root judgments, we can experience a close personal
realization of God’s unconditional love for us. Secure in our Father’s
love, we will no longer need to strive through sinful thoughts,
desires, attitudes, and actions to maintain the delusion that we need
to be in control of our lives and the lives of others in order to
experience love.
When
we have surrendered to the Holy Spirit to accomplish this work in
our lives, we can expect to experience significant freedom from the
emotional agitation of the soul that has accompanied our frequent
failures to achieve victory over repetitive sin patterns in our lives
(Gal. 5:22).
A Basic Misconception
As we struggle
with sin in our lives, we may think that we are in the
midst of a battle to overcome the power of sin. But, we would be
mistaken. Christ has already overcome the power of sin for us on the
cross! (Col. 2:9-15) The power of sin to continue to cause repetitive
and pervasive ungodly desires in our souls today persists primarily
when we are holding on to the ways of our old nature by harboring
ungodly foundational judgments from our past.
Therefore,
we must continue to be, as we were at salvation, open to
receiving the benefits afforded to us by Christ’s victory over sin,
benefits that are received through our personal repentance of current
sin in our lives and our faith in His finished work. Among these
benefits are the personal realization of God’s love for us and the
daily peace and joy, which accompany a holy lifestyle (Rom. 15:13).
We
come to experientially realize these benefits as we invite the Holy
Spirit to transform our souls by the renewing of our minds.
The
renewing of our minds (Col. 3:9,10) which brings freedom to our
souls, is accomplished, in part, by the methodical rejection of old
foundational root judgments as they are revealed to us by the Holy
Spirit (John16:13). These old judgments must be replaced with new
judgments forming a foundation based on biblical truths from God’s
written word.
STEPS TO FREEDOM
FROM
PAST FOUNDATIONAL ROOT JUDGMENTS
Discovery and Prayer
These discovery
steps and prayer steps may help you to both identify
and gain freedom from past foundational judgments in your life. Please,
try not to become rigidly dependent upon the step format I am
presenting. These steps have been an effective method for many people I
have discipled, but it is certainly possible that God
may
use multiple variations of this format or an entirely different
means to reveal foundational judgments in your life.
DISCOVERY STEPS
1. First,
spend some time in prayer and ask the Holy Spirit for
wisdom (James 1:5-7).
2.
Next, take a few moments to focus on the particular recurrent
ungodly thought and/or feeling about yourself, other people or life in
general from which you desire freedom. It is important to realize that
there may be feelings behind the dominant feelings you experience. For
example: if you are angry about something that has been said or done,
perhaps you are angry because you are also feeling ashamed or
frustrated. In this case, you would focus on both the dominant feeling
and the feelings of shame and frustration behind the dominant feeling.
Always ask the Holy Spirit to help you determine whether there are
underlying feelings hiding behind the thoughts and/or feelings you are
currently experiencing.
Write
down these thoughts and/or feelings.
3.
a) What are some of the earliest memories you have of experiencing
these same kinds of thoughts and/or feelings within yourself?
b) What are some of the earliest memories you can
recall of having someone else express these same kinds of thoughts
and/or feelings toward you?
c) Finally, what are some of the earliest memories
you have of wanting someone else to have these kinds of thoughts and/or
feelings toward you?
For
example, perhaps you are experiencing a strong passionate desire
(recurrent ungodly thought and/or feeling from step two) for someone
today that has led to an inappropriate or dysfunctional relationship.
But you really wish that some significant person in your past would
have felt that passionately about you! Write these thoughts, feelings,
and experiences down. Usually, but not always, these memories will be
related to an interaction with a significant person in your life, e.g.,
your father, mother, sibling, relative, teacher, or friend.
Looking
at each memory: what do you think that you, at that time, might
have believed to be true (whether positive or negative) about your
personal value/worth/lovability as a result of what was happening?
Write down these judgments.
Foundational
root judgments about your self often develop from these
supposed “truths”. You will not always have to seek your very earliest
memories of similar thoughts and feelings, but most significant
foundational root judgments are associated with memories from
childhood.
These
past judgments or supposed truths are likely to be the
foundational roots of the specific recurrent ungodly thought and/or
feeling you are experiencing today. This often occurs because you have
translated the judgments you believed to be true about yourself into
either a pride-based perceived strength upon which you have come to
depend or a shame-based perceived weakness you have tried to overcome.
Because sin has corrupted the condition of our souls, pride and shame
are intricately woven into most of our foundational root judgments.
The
ungodly thoughts and feelings you are experiencing today may
indicate that you have become self-reliant (instead of God-reliant), as
you have come to depend upon the pride-based “strength” or tried to
overcome the shame-based “weakness” these judgments implied.
It
is your striving in response to these past foundational root
judgments that encourages the present ungodly thoughts and feelings you
are experiencing. Please consider carefully how this might pertain to
your life. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you further illumination for
personal insight on these matters and then go immediately to “Prayer
Steps” on the next page. After prayer, continue with step four.
4.
What are some of the earliest memories you have in which you know or
believe that someone else had ungodly thoughts or feelings about other
people or about life in general, similar to the thoughts and feelings
(from step two) you are experiencing today? Write down the thoughts,
feelings and experiences from these memories.
Looking at each memory: what do you think that you,
at that time, might have believed to be true about yourself, other
people, or life in general as a result of what was happening? Write
down these judgments. From these supposed “truths,” foundational root
judgments may be formed about your self (If so, refer to step three),
other people, or life in general. These judgments or supposed “truths”
about other people and about life in general are also a common root
source for a self-reliance/performance orientation to develop in our
lives.
Frequently,
the perceived “truth” that we believe about other people or
about life in general becomes the motivation with which we attempt to
secure, by our own efforts and determinations, what we believe we need
in life. For example, when significant people in our lives openly share
their attitudes or opinions about other people or life in general we
may interpret their words in such a way that a stronghold of fear can
develop in our soul. We may then begin to develop specific behaviors
designed to alleviate our fears or help us avoid what we now perceive
to be unsafe situations.
As
long as these “truth”/judgments are securely entrenched within our
belief system, we will depend on these judgments ourselves, and, very
likely, place unrealistic expectations on other people to live by them.
We place these unrealistic expectations on other people because we feel
more secure in our foundational judgments when other people seem to
hold the same beliefs that we do. We feel threatened when their words
or actions seem to indicate that they hold different beliefs than we do.
The
following example is not my actual experience, but may be a useful
conceptual model: The ungodly thoughts and feelings that I am
experiencing today (from step two) are critical thoughts and angry
frustration toward my adult son for not volunteering for overtime at
his job. The memories from my childhood (from step five) are of my
father as a hard-working provider for the family. I recall that my
mother seemed to admire him for this, occasionally voicing her
approval. I remember that when I had my first full-time job, she
enthusiastically insisted that I should work whatever overtime was
offered to me that I might gain approval and promotion from my
superiors.
I
begin to form foundational root judgments by interpreting these
memories to mean that hard work and long hours are necessary to gain
acceptance and avoid rejection as a son, a husband, or even as a man. I
also interpret my mother’s insistence in these matters and her
admiration for my father’s efforts to mean that a potential future wife
would consider me personally acceptable by virtue of my job-related
efforts.
So
today, even though I am experiencing a strain in my
relationships with my family because of the time I am spending away
from them, I nevertheless angrily insist, influenced by my root
judgments from the past, that my son also volunteer for all the
overtime available to him! I sincerely believe that I am advising my
son on the best course of action for his life.
In
this single example, I have made judgments about myself, about other
people, and about life in general. As a result of these
judgments, I have come to believe that I must depend on my own efforts,
working long hours away from my family, to secure personal acceptance
as I define it.
Now
go to “Prayer Steps.”
PRAYER STEPS
1. A most
important first step is to forgive any person(s) from
your past associated with the memories from steps three and four who
may have contributed, by their actions or inaction, to the formation of
the foundational root judgments that are stirring up the ungodly
thoughts and/or feelings you are experiencing today (Matt. 18:21-22).
2.
Confess to God the ways in which the judgments from the past (from
steps three and four) have developed into a pride-based strength, on
which you have come to depend, a shame-based weakness that you have
tried to overcome or a fear-based behavior you have developed in order
to avoid what you perceive to be unsafe situations (Rev. 3:17) (1 Peter
2:6) (Gen.19:15-30).
Confess
that these strengths, efforts, and fears have resulted in
ungodly character development and behavior in your life. Be specific.
Refer to step two of the discovery steps for examples of your current
ungodly thoughts, words or actions.
3.
Confess your desire to be free from these sinful self-reliant
attitudes and behaviors that are offensive to God and a hindrance to
healthy relationships (James 4:13-17).
4.
And now we pray:
Lord
God, I reject the lie that my value, my self-worth or my personal
lovability
could ever be determined by the words, actions or inaction of other
people in
my life (mention the specific past or present situation) (Rom. 8:31-34;
Isa.
50:6-9). The truth is that my self-worth is determined entirely by the
fact
that I am created in your image (Genesis 1:26, 27).
I
reject the lie that I can find lasting fulfillment, peace or rest for
my soul
through my performance or by meeting the expectations of other people.
The
truth is that the sacrifice of Christ for the forgiveness of my sins
has
demonstrated your non-performance-based unconditional love for me (Eph.
3:16-20) (Romans 5:8).
I
repent of the pride, shame or fear-based behaviors that have formed in
my life
from believing these lies (Job 24:22-24). (Identify the specific thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that
have developed in your life in reaction to the original circumstances
or
personal offenses against you.)
I
invite the Holy Spirit to sanctify me, (1 Peter 1:2) through my faith
in the
finished work of Christ on the cross, (John 19:30) by
separating me from the
ungodly weeds of behavior in my life today that have risen up from
these past
judgments. I ask you, Holy Spirit, to circumcise the
old flesh from my heart
(Rom. 2:28-29) in
this area of my life which was previously not surrendered to you, so
that my
soul may be transformed into the image of Christ (2 Cor. 3:17, 18).
Thank
you, Lord Jesus, for the gift of resurrection truth and life (John 11:
25-26),
which has now entered my soul, replacing the ungodly beliefs and
behaviors that
had developed from past judgments (Heb.12:15).
In
the name of Jesus Christ, I command every unclean spirit that was
claiming
spiritual territory because of these root judgments to get out of my
life!
(Luke 10:17-19) Through my repentance
and my trust in the work of Jesus on the cross, I declare that you have
lost
your territorial rights to harass my soul. Be gone forever, in the name
of
Jesus.
I
give praise to the Lord God Almighty, for the
kingdom of the world has now become the kingdom of our Lord and of His
Christ,
and He will reign forever and ever in my soul. Come, Holy Spirit, fill
me with
the glory of your presence (Eph. 5:18). I welcome you, Holy Spirit, to
dwell
within my heart with great power as you are transforming my soul into
the
likeness of Christ, with ever increasing glory to God (2 Cor. 3:18).
Amen.
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2000 by R. Thomas Brass
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